My Read of the Month:

Title: Four Pillars of a Man’s Heart: Bringing Strength into Balance
Author: Stu Weber
Published: 1997
Genre: Christian Living; Male Discipleship
Ratings: 3.5 out of 5 stars

After reading this book, I understood what James 1:27 meant. The role of a man designed by God is ordained to be a king, warrior, mentor and friend as explained by the author.

A lot of the instability, violence, and confusion that we see in our today’s world can be pointed to man’s lack of responsibility in fulfilling his role to lead, love and care especially in his own family.

This book helps to encourage a man in being a man; a man that would bear up and stand strong under tremendous weight and pressure in his responsibilities as husband, father, etc… It also provides biblical advice  or counsel on the “how to” in being a man.

It truly highlights how we as men have a massive responsibility in constantly growing in our stature and standing in our families and communities. When the man is fully functioning in his role, we can experience peace and order.

Who should read it: As long you consider yourself a male, you should read this.

3 thoughts on “

  1. One of the better books recommended, i think. Females should read it too.

    “But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.” 1 Cor 11:3
    —-A short summary
    Four Pillars of a Man’s Heart: Bringing Strength into Balance

    Why is our civilization falling down around us? Because there is a war going on. The war of political correctness is part of it; sexual politics is part of it too, but it is larger than these. It is a war against the image of God.

    Man as Shepherd-King
    If the king pillar is not in balance, it leans to one extreme or another. He becomes either a tyrant who uses his strength to force people to do his bidding, or an abdicator who is weak, passive, or absent (whether in fact or in effect).

    Man as Warrior
    The warrior in a man can be a great asset, but if the pillar of the warrior is out of balance, the situation can become disastrous.

    Man as Mentor
    In other words, he is transparent enough to share his successes, and even his failures, if these experiences will edify his students.

    Man as Friend
    A true friend is one who, in spite of his own needs at the time, connects deliberately with another who has a need or a burden. He doesn’t just connect when it’s convenient and he feels like it.

    —For the full summary go to—-

  2. Though Stu’s words can be very educational and well-directed, his role outside of an author should be examined. As a former member of his church, this man has embraced his power as a leader of an organization. His ego has continuously hurt members of his church, including “re-defining” longstanding church staff members’ job descriptions, so they no longer desire to be part of the church, longstanding pastors leaving out of the corporate and greedy path the church has gone (mainly directed by Stu), etc. Stu has recently silenced a new, fellow pastor of the church, when the pastor asked honest, truthful questions about budget processes, administration, etc., causing the pastor to resign feeling devastated, hurt, etc. He was loved by the congregation, and presented a more genuine, transparent approach to congregation leadership, which obviously threatened Stu’s position as pastor. The church itself is a multimillion dollar mega-church organization who does little for the community and spends the majority of funds on missionaries to western, European countries, the church “media-ministry”, a brand new expansion and remodeling of the church (including CD’s of sermons, movie-theater seats, full color brochures, ridiculous salaries for the leadership, spending accounts for youth leaders, etc.). Stu’s salary must be high enough, as he recently gave a $5,000 gift to “Government is not God”, a conservative PAC. Not to mention Stu’s beautiful, enormous house in the wealthiest neighborhood of the town.

    This is not meant to be an attack on Stu, but readers and believers should be cautious of who they put their trust in the hands of. Church leaders are humans, with temptations and trials. It is all too easy to recognize the power you’ve been given abuse it, especially with no accountability. Genuine believers must filter information and leadership through their own faith, not what “leaders” tell them their faith should be.

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