How We Make Others Feel Matters

In the midst of this month, I have attended two funerals.

The first funeral was a friend who died in an unfortunate and tragic accident (see inserted picture).

The other was my step-grandma who passed away because of old age. She lived a full 86 years.

I believe we have been through enough funerals to observe that one of the important things that we leave behind when we depart from earth are memories.

Leaving behind memories

Memories are the traces of marks that are left behind from the encounters and experiences  that family and friends accumulate with the person while still alived.

Ideally, these memories  should be pleasant for others to remember fondly.

The truth about this observation is that people may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel.

Therefore, how we relate and treat people around us matter more than what we know or say to them.

For instance, I may not be able to recall what my primary school teachers taught me more than 20 years ago, but I have impressions of them from how they related with me as their student.

Making that difference each day

So what am I saying?

Resolute to deposit lasting memories to those around us by treating them with love and respect; little acts of kindness to others will go a long way in making an impact and leaving a legacy.

The small daily differences we make towards others, over time, add up to big differences that we often cannot foresee.

One thought on “How We Make Others Feel Matters

  1. True. But sometimes as Proverbs says “wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.” We may say things people like to hear but it may not be right. Sometimes we may need to offend some people in order to stand up for the truth. The seductress in Proverbs also will be remembered very well by the people she tempts but it’s not good for them in the end.

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